On Tuesday (June 8), social media users were outraged and disappointed when a video of Dr Muhaya Mohamad, a well-known ophthalmologist and media personality in the country, talking about reasons why women are getting married late surfaced.
The video which was originally posted on her social media account, was deleted after receiving backlash, but was soon reposted by a Twitter user on the same day.
The video started with the professor saying that in regards to religion, women should appreciate men and their strength, as they act as women’s leaders regardless of their status. In the video, she was also quoted as saying: “All imams are men, all prophets are men.”
Referring to the status of men in religion, she added that women should "stop trying to liberate yourself to be equal to men" as doing so would lead them to having "high levels of testosterone”, which is one of the reasons women are not getting married.
“Men like women who are soft-spoken, have high estrogen, dependent on men for help. It’s okay to dumb yourself down for it (getting married),” she said.
She also advised women to “check their personality and character” if they still haven’t found someone to marry.
Since it was posted, the video has garnered over 1.6 million views, and 32,000 retweets, with the majority of Twitter users expressing their anger and dissatisfaction with her “sexist” and “misogynistic” comments.
The comments attracted many successful women (and men) to share their opinions. Unsurprisingly, they are all against “making yourself stupid for a man”.
However, there are some who agree with Dr Muhaya’s opinions. In her defence, they said her words were misinterpreted by the public, as she was not asking the women to be dumb, but instead to be humble in front of men.
Some are even saying that she is right when she stated that women should rely on men, as they cannot do everything by themselves.
It seems that we still have a long way to go if we want women empowerment. As long as there is still internalised misogyny with no effort to learn and improve, we would be modern people with old-fashioned thoughts and idealism.
To women, if your future husband is threatened by your intelligence and success, he's not the one for you. Be successful, and find someone who celebrates it with you. Don't lower your standards just to get married. ^^